Success or Failure

“Persistently you have proved your mettle and have given stellar performances since past 8 years.Do not quit now, it would only push you to the edge of the precipice, never to come back again.”

Samaira listened to her manager intently but did she have a choice! Her fairness treatment could not wait longer; she was 30 and equally clueless on how to calm her parents’ anxiety for repeated marriage proposals rejection.

The black magic of her dark complexion-it had completely overpowered her success!


Cold Blooded Murder Of A Woman In Broad Daylight In Punjab And Her Mistake Was-Honesty And Loyalty! Our Moral System On The Verge Of Extinction?

It is bizarre how everybody considers “Honesty” a virtue, yet no one wants to hear the truth! Inside a closed and egocentric world in present times, honesty might make you feel outcast and inadequate. Also, a possibility that the said virtue might create a conflict between good and the evil and we, in all likelihood, fall prey to the wicked.

In a spine-chilling incident, Punjab woman drug Inspector, Neha Suri, had to pay the heavy price for her inherent ethics.Murdered in the broad daylight, leaving behind her 2 year old daughter and husband, she eventually paid the penalty for her righteousness. Revenge did not do any good to both the families-the victim and the assailant, it only created perpetual darkness and sufferings for the left out family members.Her mistake was to stay true to her duties and not letting crime burgeon in her region and her allegiance was requited by bullet shots.Like this, on day to day basis,we keep coming across such horrifying experiences. Does this infer that honesty-a paragon of virtue, comes with a huge price?

Indubitably,today in the unkind world, our moral system is indeed threatened and is on the verge of becoming extinct. It is not far when we would see “Honesty”, as vintage but an obsolete principle, on the verge of death! Our Indian values are on stake; it is high time that we pay heed to our unruly actions and protect our progeny than letting the demon of wrongness overwhelm us.

In The Bhagavad Gita, Krishna had told Arjuna that “Man is his own friend and enemy.”

So let us chose to be friends with the wisdom and accept accountability of our wrongdoings than getting into the vicious circle of blame-game. It is imperative that we keep a check on roots of all sins- anger,resentment  and unwarranted desires because it fetches us nothing but grief,loss and burning tears.


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Mastering The Art Of Unapologetic NO To All The Hard Feelings That Make You Cry

Take it on the chin, you are all grown up.”

Ria jerked awake with her heart pounding. It was no more a bad dream but soon to be the reality she was expected to live with. The childhood memories of “togetherness” started haunting her, the impending loss felt overwhelming.

Could she do anything about it and put a stop to this misery or will she have to accept it wittingly.

The struggle to erase all the sweet past memories had completely numbed her senses, all she now knew was that it was NOT only her parents who were getting divorced but it was the separation as a “Family.”  Had she known that “Family” also came with an Expiry date, she would never had taken the precious “togetherness “ for granted.

Though Ria was fully aware of the turbulent marriage her parents were into but divorce always felt a far fetched idea. How could she taint the “Happy Family” image tucked in her heart by even thinking of the dreadful marital breakdown? This surely can not happen to her and with this conviction, 30 years had passed. She loved her parents and her parents loved her back and thus it felt faint to even think of them parting their ways. The everyday ritual of whatsapp video call with them in one single frame further hardened her belief that “everything was absolutely all right” and she did not have to fret over minor scuffles.

But “Happy Family” portrait was a mirage, she could no more ignore the constant wailings of her mother and insurmountable issues between her parents.

She could no more evade the inevitable. Marital conflict between her parents was for real and reconciliation was no more a possibility.

With this acceptance, she started taking baby steps towards the art of saying an unapologetic NO to all the hard feelings, angst and confusion which had entirely captured her mind and heart.

“I do not want to tear apart and thus I take a hard stand  to remain unapologetic about my decision to take charge of my happiness and inner peace in spite of the ongoing turmoil in my family.”

“I an not god’s incarnation on earth and thus I do not possess spiritual powers to make my parents start loving each other. I will attempt to bridge the gap but if I fail, I will certainly have an unapologetic NO attitude towards my tears for I can’t blame myself for them tearing apart.”

“ For a long time, I have blamed myself and my sister for the ongoing turbulence in my parents’ life but now I want to say an unapologetic NO to the guilt feeling which says that we are the reason for their marital discord. “

Her personal diary was her sole companion and penning down these thoughts gave her an instant high.

“Get a life”, finally, Ria said this to the “helplessness” residing somewhere in her heart. She felt lively and uninhibited as she had learnt the art of saying unapologetic NO to all the negativity around her.

True Beauty

“True beauty is born through our actions and aspirations and in the kindness we offer to others.” – Alek Wek

Rightly said, beauty is no more dependent on kohl rimmed eyes and shimmering lips. It is not about being flawless;albeit it springs from the heart, dwells in our eyes and shines through our blemishes.

Take the happiness litmus test and she, with her cheery smile, sparkling black eyes and effervescent persona,will surely score a cent! The true epitome of beauty,my maternal aunt is always a vision in white and possesses the knack of connecting with people with the utmost ease.

She is the strongest woman I have ever known. Her mental brawniness and emotional strength is something I really admire about her.A beautiful bride at the tender age of 19, she,along with her partner, embarked on the exquisite journey of togetherness but the nuptial bliss came to an unanticipated halt when her husband was diagnosed with a chronic mental disease -”Schizophrenia.” This marked the onset of unremitting hallucinations and delusions with the inception of the incurable malady; life indeed turned into a living nightmare.
Life,sometimes, demands struggles and in those gruelling situations, it is rather easy to get overwhelmed and “Give Up” temptation overpowers us. But did she surrender?The ball game was entirely different from what came before in her life,yet, she chose to fight like a warrior and emerge triumphant in her own eyes.
The early days of the relationship were quite baffling.On one hand,all she desired was to break through the shackles and free her soul,while on the other hand, she felt powerless to pull herself out of the deep,wretched hovels on pretext of “ Marriages are made in heaven and to be endured on earth.” To make her marriage divorce proof, she tried her best to keep her emotions in check and not let the world see how the “brain disorder” was wreaking havoc on their relationship. From enduring physical violence to tolerating emotional and verbal abuse, she took everything on her stride, because all she wanted was to be a little hand of succour for her partner,who himself was fighting against all odds to lead a normal life. Being a psychology graduate, she was au fait with the necessity of providing family support and guidance to a schizophrenic patient.Did she have the perseverance of the saints?  I wonder- Yes! Her relentless pursuits has undeniably stood the test of times and she,with her unwavering loyalty, is still nurturing her alliance with all love and care.
6 years after marriage, life was all thorns,adding to the miseries; society started questioning her “womanhood” as the child was nowhere in sight. This led to questioning her existence, in turn, giving rise to unwarranted fears and at last she decided to put an end to the woes by opting in for motherhood.  Motherhood is surreal in all the best ways; still the tough times did not cease here; and she was again put on trials,colossal in size and stature. My cousin alias her son was diagnosed with another fatal disease “Metachromatic Leukodystrophy” and with this, her world came crashing down. During this moment of intense grief, she experienced an epiphany that “God will carry her through the storm, will give her strength to endure the pain and courage to face the fears.”
My aunt is a woman of indomitable spirit. When she gave birth to her 2nd son, I remember telling her that it would have been good if she could have delivered a baby girl as she already had one son. She said that if that would have happened, she would not have loved me and my 2 sisters the same way she does now. Ah! I felt an immediate sense of relief because I loved her and still do and did not want anyone to take my place in her life. In spite of so many hardships,her dauntless fortitude has made her absolutely fearless.
For me and my family, she is the woman who fits in all the yardstick of beauty. Soft like a rock and fragile like a bomb,my aunt is genuinely the most beautiful woman  I will ever know!

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Alone and Independent, I am no more scared to fly high

The audience loved her scintillating wit and flamboyant style,unanimously she was chosen icon of the decade award.

Red lace dress,diamond drop earrings and nude heels, Zara looked exquisite.

“Thank you! “, her face shone with rapturous joy, she said, “ I dedicate this award to my husband”. The concert hall resounded with cheers and applause, the spotlight glitz shifted to Rohan and his face brimmed with self conceit.

Zara continued , “ had not for Rohan’s abhorrence for my dusky complexion and his interminable criticism towards my non competence to fit in the good wife archetype,I would not have excelled. His jeers and taunts and my tenacity to prove myself grew stronger together day by day. Thus, with all my heart, I surrender this achievement to my consort-Rohan.

An eerie silence filled the foyer! Crowd listened aghast,gobsmacked by the turn of events.

Zara resumed, “  I was a puppet, you held my wings but now it is time to spread my wings and  soar into the air without You! “

The male ego was certainly bruised but it faintly concerned her for she was no more the old meek woman.

The new Zara paused and turned, alight with happiness, now she was free and ready to take on the world!

The new Karwa chauth

Glint in her eyes and the saccharine smile said it all! The piercing stares of the onlookers and the malicious slurs,nothing distressed Ayesha anymore.Dressed impeccably in her wedding finery,she looked resplendent.Trying to catch a glimpse of the moon beneath the scarlet sky,Ayesha peeped through the sieve and then looked at her reflection in the mirror. It was time for her to leave behind the lingering trauma of abusive relationship and embrace a new beginning after divorce.Now, she was married to herself for she knew that she will take care of herself in a way that mattered the most.

Shakti-an unconquerable force

The searing labour pain and she shrieked in agony while the babies crowned! 12 long hours of the harrowing rendition, and finally, Shakti gave birth to twin baby boys. Sweating and gasping for breath,she looked at the babies and their whimpers tugged at her heartstrings. She felt accomplished! Forced into surrogacy owing to poverty, she had resigned to her fate; a feeble smile appeared on her lips at the thought of giving birth to boys!

Married at 19 and mother of 3 girls by 25, Shakti was labeled barren for not being able to protect the so called “royal dynasty”. Her womb was cursed for bringing shame to her family by not producing a boy.Abandoned by husband and in-laws for the obvious, she had decided that no matter what, she will do everything possible to raise her daughters with dignity and respect and fight against patriarchy and the pervasive gender discrimination.

The Other Side:

Victorious moment called for time to rejoice! The grandparents heaved a sigh of relief,  their smiles exhibiting a euphoric sense of achievement. The heirs of the family had come at last and it felt like a double bonanza, the missing Y chromosome was found eventually. Praying in silence with their eyes shut, they profusely thanked god for saving the lineage of the family. It was a remarkable day in their lives, the family name was saved when Shakti, the surrogate woman who agreed to rent her womb, appeared like a magical wand and had put an end to their ongoing miseries. Rama, the meek daughter in law, also felt at ease. Now, her hardships of going through unending abortions and the subsequent emotional grief will finally cease. Diya and Avni’s happiness also knew no bounds, now they knew, with the arrival of their saviours- twin brothers, no one would ridicule their mother Rama for giving birth to girls and curse them for being born as the unwanted gender!

The nauseating smell of the medicines at the hospital also could not conceal their jubilation, all of them were ecstatic but the reasons were different.

20 Years later:

India magazine featured Shakti as the face of Resilient and indefatigable India. Notwithstanding the societal oppression for being a mother of only girls, she firmly stood with her daughters in fulfilling their aspirations.